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Posted by Dean from PA
I know from first glance this all seems petty. But if she hadnīt put me through the ringer during the custody hearings in the first place I wouldnīt still be over $15,000 in debt to my lawyer. I lost my home and my credit is ruined. If I donīt pursue the child support, I will not be able to keep a roof over my sonīs head. I was laid off during her incarceration and went back to school to secure a better job. Now I also have a $20,000 student loan to pay off. My fiance can only work part time due to my sonīs mental disabilities and need for care. I guess we could all just live off the SSI, but I was not raised that way. All the while his bio-mom has quit every job her parole officer has found for her. She took advantage of every program the prison system had to help her upon her release. Now that she is out, she reufuses to work, she claims she is a sub-contractor but even the court knows itīs a lie. I did offer to waive the child support in the beginning, but she wanted to fight it out in court knowing full well I would be given custody. She just wanted to hurt me. I offered her the same deal upon her parole, so she could use the money for the counseling and classes she was ordered to take so she could have supervised visits. She choose to abandon our son instead. My 12 yr old son suffers from Post-traumatic stress disorder from the neglect and abuse when he lived with bio-mom. He is autistic and ADHD as well as having to live with the Fetal Alcohol Syndrom he was born with. Even through all of this he just doesnīt understand why his mother wonīt give the effort to go to counseling with him and form some type of relationship. Am I wrong in pursuing the only kind of support I can enforce? She started having children in high school to avoid work and the responsabilities of adulthood. All of her children were just a way to stay on welfare, or have the multiple fathers paying in to her. ALL of her children are with their fathers and she must support them now. Yes it is ironic. Yes Karma is having her day. NO I am not an unfeeling person out to ruin her life as she has done ours. An eye for an eye makes everyone blind.
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