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Re: YOU KNOW NOTHING
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Posted by Susan
In Reply to: Re: YOU KNOW NOTHING posted by Susan who ever you are
You can take your argument to court, and see if it flies there.
It doesnīt fly in my book, nor does it fly in the books of all of the non-custodial parents out there who are trying to support their children, only to have the custodial parents spending the money on themselves.
THIS REASON EXACTLY is why most non-custodial parents STRONGLY RESENT having to send money out to people like you. BECAUSE THEY KNOW that the money wonīt be spent on the child. And here you are confirming that for us. Thank you very much.
In addition, HOW MANY FATHERS OUT THERE WOULDNīT BE PAYING CHILD SUPPORT - but for the fact that they married a decent woman who not only insisted that they care for all of their children equally - but ALSO helped to "pay back" the woman for the support her child received?
Why is it that all you welfare mothers can get money from the state - and then the father is required to pay that back entirely? THE FACT OF THE MATTER IS - THAT THE STATES HAVE DECIDED THAT MOTHERS DO NOT HAVE THE ABILITY TO CARE FOR THEIR CHILDREN WITHOUT THE ASSISTANCE OF THE FATHER. FATHERS who have custody, on the other hand, are FOR LESS LIKELY to receive support payments from DEADBEAT mothers - and you donīt hear them complaining.
YOU get off your high horse. IF YOU HADNīT had a child with some DEADBEAT man, you WOULNīT BE IN THE BOAT IN WHICH YOU NOW SIT, AND NEITHER WOULD YOUR CHILD.
YOU MUST TAKE SOME OF THE RESPONSIBILITY. I noticed you didnīt even address that issue when I brought it up before. And, you wonīt - because you know that this is the one issue where women canīt back up what they are saying - WHY WONīT YOU TAKE RESPONSIBILITY FOR WHAT YOU CREATED? Why is it that you are so bitter that you have to destroy the life of someone else, in addition to your own child?
Why didnīt you abort your child if you didnīt want to care for it? Or adopt it out?
YES the father is responsible for HELPING support his child. But NO he is not ENTIRELY responsible for supporting his child. IF YOU WANT HIM TO BE ENTIRELY RESPONSIBLE, why didnīt you let him be responsible for HAVING his child, by giving him custody? Neither is he required to ALSO making it possible for the mother to have extra little special things as well. Never have I seen a court order for child support, where it states that an EXTRA amount has been awarded to care for the extra "treats" the mother may want.
You are a fool to think that stepparents arenīt important. Are you telling me that if you met a man who loved and cared for your child, that you would tell him it doesnīt mean anything to that child because that man is only a STEPPARENT?
I HOPE SOMEDAY THAT YOU MEET A GREAT MAN WHO YOU WANT TO LOVE YOUR CHILD LIKE HIS OWN - AND THEN I HOPE HE TELLS YOU HE WANTS NOTHING TO DO WITH YOU BECAUSE YOU HAVE A CHILD, AND HE DOESNīT WANT THAT RESPONSIBILITY. THAT would put you in your place for good, and you would see how important STEPparents really are. You yourself might be in this same equation someday - you could meet a man who has a child from a previous relationship - and you will consider yourself important, whether the childīs mother does or not.
FORTUNATELY for me, my husband and I are both decent people, so we had our children with decent people, and we can all get along reasonably well. FORTUNATELY FOR ME, the mother of my stepson KNOWS how important I have been in Ethanīs life. SHE KNOWS how much I love her son, and SHE KNOWS that her son loves me too.
SHE IS ALSO A GOOD ENOUGH MOTHER TO KNOW what is best for her son, and to put her own wants and needs aside for his sake. SHE SPENDS HIS CHILD SUPPORT MONEY ON HIM - whether that be for rent, or bills, or clothes, or food, or whatever. IT is meant for him - and SHE understands this.
YOU OBVIOUSLY DONīT. There is no argument here. We will not ever agree on this matter. Your child deserves better than a mother who thinks that SHE is the victim in all this. YOU MADE YOUR BED NOW LIE IN IT TOO.
TAKE YOUR PAPERS BACK TO THE COURT WHERE THEY WERE SIGNED AND TRY TELLING THE JUDGE THAT YOU THINK THIS MEANS YOU CAN SPEND THE MONEY ON YOURSELF. Youīll have yourself charged with contempt of court, lady.
I donīt know where youīre from, but in my state, the non-custodial parent CAN take a custodial parent to court for contempt, when it can be proven that she is spending the support money on herself. And with mothers like you, screaming to the rooftops that this is what they are doing, it wouldnīt be too difficult.
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