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• Re: Rowe vs Wade & Equal Rights - Jessica 2007-11-12 13:29
  It all comes down to the golden rule donīt have sex until you get married. LOL!! Yes that rule is now long gone, kinda sad though, it has changed society forever. Letīs be real men like having sex as do women. I believe that women have more rights as mothers, then men d --more...

• Re: More deadbeat Mom - Ian M - England 2007-11-09 04:36
  I want to share with you a letter I wrote to an ex-partner after not seeing my son for 5 years at that time. You can form your own opinion on whether I seemed genuine or not. Bottom line is, I made the choice to walk away from my son because his birth wasnīt planned, --more...

• Re: Tales of a true Deadbeat Mother!! - John 2007-11-09 04:32
  Yes, That is exactly the advice every woman gives another ... Shea right. although I do believe let it go and move on, just do not change anything.

  
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  Please note; there has been a hiatus of over one year in which this forum has not been processed. --more...

• Re: Custodial wavier of past due support - KenC 2007-11-09 04:30
  Iīve never heard of such a thing but Iīm not a lawyer. The key legal document we non-custodial parents need to be concerned with is called "the Income Withholding Order". Itīs the order, signed by the judge, saying the state has the right to take such-and-such amount --more...

• Re: More deadbeat Mom - KenC 2007-11-09 04:28
  If youīve lost your home and are homeless then you should not have custody of your child anyway. You could hand him over to foster care or give him up for adoption. Being in foster care or an orphange is better than your son living on the street since as you wrote, you --more...

• Re: Menīs rights - Kimberly, Seattle 2007-11-09 04:27
  Just to follow up on your little train of thought here: Logistics donīt always work the way weīd like them to;

  Men and Women do not have equal rights by law or culture in North America- Iīm no feminist, but if you believe my statement to be untrue, Iīve got some oc --more...

• Help! Can I get out of child support? - California 2007-11-09 04:24
  Alright. This is the deal. I met this girl I really liked and we dated. We had sex many times, with and w/out protection. I found out she was pregnant. She told me when she first missed her period in the beginning though I didnīt believe her. I thought she was ly --more...

• Re: Tales of a true Deadbeat Mother!! - Dean from PA 2006-06-09 02:25
  You sound like one of her new boyfriends! All I can say Ken is; wear a condom!!!! --more...

• Re: Tales of a true Deadbeat Mother!! - KenC 2006-06-07 01:06
  Yes. Jesus tells us to forgive our debtors. You will be happier if you let this go. But I know you wonīt. You will waste years and years hounding this woman, maybe for the next 10 or 15 years, working to destroy someone elses life. Whatīs the point? In the end, 20 --more...

• Re: Tales of a true Deadbeat Mother!! - Dean from PA 2006-06-05 23:30
  Whatīs the point?! To quote your previous post "I was able to beat the child support system". The point is you didnīt beat the system you beat your child and childīs mother. Every child deserves the right to both emotional; and financial support from both parents. I su --more...

• More deadbeat Mom - Dean from PA 2006-06-05 23:29
  I know from first glance this all seems petty. But if she hadnīt put me through the ringer during the custody hearings in the first place I wouldnīt still be over $15,000 in debt to my lawyer. I lost my home and my credit is ruined. If I donīt pursue the child support, --more...

• Re: Tales of a true Deadbeat Mother!! - chris 2006-06-05 01:50
  im in minnesota and have almost identical situation. id like to chat more about this. they told me today that its not cost justifiable on the counties part to file contempt. hahahahah --more...

• Re: Tales of a true Deadbeat Mother!! - KenC 2006-06-05 01:48
  Why are you wasting time hounding this woman? You already have custody of your son, a family, and a life! Count your blessings! If this woman was drug addicted and just released from prison she doesnīt have much to start a new life! Now you want to hound her more? --more...

• Custodial wavier of past due support - Florida 2006-06-05 01:41
  Can anyone tell me the necessary forms or steps required for the custodial parent to waive all rights to past-due support. I heard that it is possible for the custodial parent to do so, but does so waiving all rights to these funds going forward. My ex-wife is willing --more...

• Re: Child Support When NCP is not working. - KenC 2006-06-01 22:10
  You may not like my suggestion, but it comes from many years of experience. I have seen cases where divorced couples re-marry, start new families, and fight for years and decades over more money. Many times not because of financial need, but to ruin the life of the ex --more...

• Tales of a true Deadbeat Mother!! - Dean from PA 2006-06-01 22:07
  Iīll try to keep this short. Never married to my sonīs mother, she is a real winner!!! Took me for everything I had when she had custody, refused to let me see him, abused and neglected my son to the point he is mentally disabled. She is an addict and drug dealer. Lived --more...

• Re: Child Support When NCP is not working. - Susan 2006-05-24 16:23
  The court SHOULD impute the motherīs income based on her previous ability as a wage earner. It is her choice to not work - however her obligation to support your husbandīs and her son is not ended just because she doesnīt actually have any income coming in.

  My husb --more...

• Re: Child Support When NCP is not working. - leon from Alaska 2006-05-23 01:12
  according to the federal rgs under title 45 usc 654-669 there supposed to calculate support accordingly against the non-custodial parent reguardless of there income, based upon a potential, however if you read more farther down especialy in the definitions in the CFRīs --more...

• Child Support When NCP is not working. - Missmonise in MD 2006-05-22 17:50
  My husband was awarded sole custody of his son last November. It was a custody modification case and for some reason child support was not discussed. At the time my stepsonīs mother was pregant and not working due to a high risk pregnancy. She has since then had the --more...

• HELP US! - Phillip Kerri 2006-05-12 16:44
  First off let me say I have read many of these posts and to the women "whining" about being owed hereīs a little scenerio, crooked magistrate gives custody to someone convicted of multiple DUIīs assualt on an officer and domestic violence of a former wife, his current w --more...

• For Those who Remember Me - KenC 2006-05-05 23:32
  I have an amazing story to post of years of experience in dealing with the Michigan Friend of the Court and how I was able to eventually beat the child support system. But many of the posters in this forum have changed over the years and I donīt want to post a long bor --more...

• Re: Question about PA. domestics guidelines - leon from alaska 2006-05-02 01:49
  in a nutshell that pretty much sums it up. There are some of us, a very small few that are challening some of these issues in a federal court, different though from any case ever tried. Mine is about the fact that there is no true definition of a custodial non custodial --more...

• Re: YOU KNOW NOTHING - Bruce/NJ 2006-05-01 16:32
  My ex in Florida spends my child support check to support her alchohol dependency. This has been conveyed to me via both my children who also tell me that most days the fridge is empty of food yet has enough beer in it to keep her intoxicated till the next check comes. --more...

• Re: Question about PA. domestics guidelines - Nick In PA 2006-05-01 16:31
  I know Pennsylvania is the toughest state on Men. So basically because I'm a man, until my child is 18 I cannot live a normal life and have nice things because if I work overtime, the custodial parent(my sonīs mother) will always get all my money. Does that about sum --more...

• Re: Question about PA. domestics guidelines - leon from Alaska 2006-05-01 01:48
  any income, regardless of the reasoning or the source you recieve it from,(that is monies you report on youre taxes) they will attach to,support is derived from sources of income, income is defined under the Tax regulations, title 5 USC. As far as monies she has receive --more...

• Question about PA. domestics guidelines - Nick In Pennsylvania 2006-04-30 00:48
  Just a couple of questions about domestics in any State, but I live in Pennsylvania. 1. If youīre working a considerable amount of overtime, will they take that extra money into consideration even though itīs overtime and give that to the custodial parent, if so, what --more...

• Re: a barrage of lawsuits - leon from Alaska 2006-04-29 12:22
  the key to cases like this and pretty much any case when it is made up of BS, is to invoke no HEARSAY Rule, and then pound the sh.. out of the other party when they make a comment or accusation with no facts or evidence to support it, courts are for fact, the judge is s --more...

• Re: a barrage of lawsuits - KenC 2006-04-27 14:52
  Women often use false charges of abuse as a trick to get money or leverage in court. If what you wrote is true I bet sheīs done the same thing to other people. Try contacting her blood kin family members, and old boyfriends. Do some digging in her past. dig up some --more...

• Re: YOU KNOW NOTHING - Susan 2006-04-27 09:11
  I wasnīt the one assuming anything. YOU assume that all non-custodial parents are deadbeats, like your guy, and as a result, you assume that all custodial parents must be "victims", who have to (God forbid) fully support the children they fully decided to have.
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• Re: YOU KNOW NOTHING - Sly Foxx 2006-04-27 06:05
  You can still be behind and paying support. You do know this right?
  

  And again, Iīll make sure the judge contacts you and lets you know how much my sperm donor is garnished each week and what I being reimbursed.
  

  If you donīt understand what I am typi --more...

• Re: YOU KNOW NOTHING - Susan 2006-04-26 23:35
  Sly...as I mentioned before - the main issue - the main conversation started - when Tanya said that when the child support check comes, she spends it on herself, as she considers it to be a "treat" for herself.
  

  At no time did Tanya state that the NCP in HER ca --more...

• Re: YOU KNOW NOTHING - Sly Foxx 2006-04-26 12:40
  Actually, my ex is behind quite a lot so therefore all that comes in is reimbursement for what already has been dished out!
  

  Iīll have the judge call you and let him tell you how I AM ABLE TO SPEND THE MONEY ON MYSELF AND THE CHILD DIDNīT RAISE HIMSELF!
  --more...

• a barrage of lawsuits - tim/houston 2006-04-25 15:55
  Until I found this website I was beginning to believe no one noticed.I have a 4 1/2 year old daughter and her mother works as a secretary in a law firm in Odessa Texas. We seperated about three years ago and since then my life has been turned upside down. She unleashed --more...

• Re: YOU KNOW NOTHING - Susan 2006-04-25 15:53
  You can take your argument to court, and see if it flies there.
  

  It doesnīt fly in my book, nor does it fly in the books of all of the non-custodial parents out there who are trying to support their children, only to have the custodial parents spending the mone --more...

• Re: YOU KNOW NOTHING - Susan who ever you are 2006-04-25 00:19
  You can come at me all you want. The truth is the truth! MOTHERS CAN SPEND THE MONEY ON THEMSELVES IF THEY CHOOSE TO. It is owed to them and if Tanya would come back she would explain it to your retarded self. I donīt care. You can try and explain the whole damn alphabe --more...

• YOU KNOW NOTHING - Susan - Specifically to Sly Foxx 2006-04-24 06:21
  A. You have no idea what you are talking about. You make presumptive claims that Tanyaīs ex is BEHIND in support payments, when she made no such claim. You base this idea on nothing more than YOUR experience with your ex.
  

  B. Based on the court order, custodi --more...

• Re: Iīm going to JAIL HELP!!! - Sly Foxx 2006-04-21 18:02
  I can bet how much money, Tanyaīs ex is behind in support and is just now trying to catch up. My childīs father is behind 2 years. You bet your ass he is repaying the 1500 a month in support TO ME. Itīs called reimbursement.
  

  And hell baseball and whatever othe --more...

• Re: jailed husband done wrong i believe - Sly Foxx 2006-04-21 18:01
  Help him support his child out of wedlock! How far back is he that they arrested him? --more...

• Re: jailed husband done wrong i believe - Susan 2006-04-21 18:01
  How is it that your hubby came about getting arrested?
  

  You could always call, provide your husbandīs name and info, as though you ARE the cp, to get info about what they are saying he owes, etc. But be careful, because if Iīm not mistaken itīs against the law --more...

• jailed husband done wrong i believe - south ga 2006-04-21 03:19
  I believe my husband is being done wrong about child support. He had a child out of wed lock and donīt have rights to that child except to pay cs and now they arrested him and i canīt get any info from cse agent b/c iīm not the cp any help? --more...

• Re: Iīm going to JAIL HELP!!! - Susan in Wichita 2006-04-21 03:18
  Also, Brenda - you said "if you donīt want to pay child support, keep your pants on." The same could be said for mothers who donīt want to be responsible for supporting their own children. --more...

• Re: Iīm going to JAIL HELP!!! - Susan Again 2006-04-21 03:18
  In fact, you are wrong. If the father is paying child support regularly - Tanya did not ever say that he wasnīt paying child support - then he is not in arrears, and they are BOTH EQUALLY RESPONSIBLE for paying their proportionate shares of the amount required to care --more...

• Re: I donīt care about the child support - KenC 2006-04-20 15:03
  Try writing him a letter explaining how you feel. Your fatherīs response to you is misdirected anger at your mother for a situation he did not want. Every man loves his child. There is good in all people. But other things get in the way. Later in life you may have --more...

• Re: Iīm going to JAIL HELP!!! - Sly Foxx 2006-04-20 09:21
  Actually, Tanya is right in a sense. If the mother is flipping the bill all the time without support from the father, once the payments start to come in IT IS REPAYMENT. How do you think the child is surviving without the fatherīs assistance??? By the mother ofcourse. B --more...

• Re: child support mod denied - leon from Alaska 2006-04-20 03:24
  what is there justification for raising the support, and where did they get there figures that you can afford an higher amount, and did they take into account the factual living costs on youre part,there is a way to deal w/ these guys or gals, but its tedious and no law --more...

• Re: child support mod denied - KenC 2006-04-20 03:23
  Remember, the denial of your petition did not come from the Judge. It came from a caseworker at your stateīs child support office. Same thing happened to me three years ago. I hired a lawyer, we went before the judge, and the judge agreed with us. I won my case. --more...

• I donīt care about the child support - Sophie 2006-04-20 03:22
  My dad has never paid child support for me, an odd hundred quid he has given my mum in the past 17 years. He has two other children whom are spoilt beyond belief. My mum has struggled for money for most of my life (getting thrown out of houses, canīt afford any furnitur --more...

• Re: Iīm going to JAIL HELP!!! - Susan in Wichita, Kansas 2006-04-19 01:25
  My response: You are wrong.
  
  Your child support amount is based upon an inflated amount that in no way takes into consideration the fatherīs cost of maintaining his own home, nor does it take into account any costs incurred by the father when he has the child.< --more...

• child support mod denied - hoyle davis kcmo 2006-04-19 01:22
  I have been paying child support since 4/1/98 started at 750 mo 2 kids 2/1/99 oldest out of school dropped to 550 mo ex took me back for more1/01/02 child support raised to 853 mo 1 child I was current until the raise MY income does not allow me to afford this much all --more...

• Re: why should i pay? - Susan in Wichita, Kansas 2006-04-17 02:11
  If your EX isnīt properly handling her custodial responsibilities, you could file for a change in custody altogether, ending any obligation for support that you might pay to her.
  

  If the children are with your parents - wonīt your parents testify to that effect --more...

• Re: Iīm going to JAIL HELP!!! - Susan in Wichita, Kansas 2006-04-17 02:10
  I completely agree with this post.
  

  As a stepmother and mother, when I lost my job, my stepsonīs support amount continued to be the same. Although my husbandīs income did not change, our family income certainly did.
  

  Like this woman, our insurance was --more...