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Posted by Forgetful Sue in Mizzou

In Reply to: Insulted posted by Andrea

Take a look at the statistics!!

And accept a few things.

1. You cannot ever change bio-dad.

2. You cannot force a parent to parent.

3. You don’t have to be a negative statistic.

4. You made the choice to sleep with him.

5. When ever you have sex you are risking pregnancy. He didn’t get you pregnant. You got pregnant because YOU had sex with a man that wasn´t worth it.

Find positive Male role models/influence for your son, uncles, grandfathers, et. This is the most important thing you can do.

Second accept him for being him. Don´t buy the boys and girls are the same myth.

Stop dating any man. I was married to my son’s bio-dad. When we divorced it was a wake up call. I looked very closely at why I (yes I) made a bad decision to marry an idiot. I had to see myself as being half of the problem, I was a self centered b**ch.

You have complete control over who you date and if that man will be worth your time and your child’s time. Don´t rush to the bedroom.

Look at yourself and what made you settle for less than what you deserve. Remember the size of a guys wallet has nothing to do with his capabilities of a good human being.

Take time to read books that are controversial are considered “anti” women’s right. You will be amazed at some of the lies and miss truths you have been told.

My first book that I would encourage you to read is “The Wonder of Boys” by Michael Gurain (any book by him is wonderful).

Then read “War against Boys” by Christina Hoff Sommers (don’t like her politics) but she brings out some major lies that are taught.

When your son is school age your son is at most risk of failing. Learn about how far boys are in reading and writing. How they are not going to college. Learn how your son will take a risky job.

Your son’s world will be much different than yours. I have a boy and two girls. I have seen boys get in trouble for something my oldest daughter did, just because they were boys and close by. If your son shows an ounce of compassion for a baby he will be looked at funny and asked if he is “normal”. My son loves babies and I was asked if he was mentally retarded. When I answered no then I was told to watch out he might turn into a faggot. This was in play ear shot. That’s the reality of your son’s world.

I hate recommending this author because I personally think she is a homophobic bigot but her books are pretty correct, Laura Schlessinger. Especially read the book "The Proper Care and Feeding of husbands." Don´t just treat your man that way but all the people in your life. Show appreciation for what they do. You will get returns.

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