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Posted by Steve J., Westchester, NY
I was on your website, which I found to be very helpful. I am wondering what you think about the following: I was arrested after an incident with my wife and an Temporary Order of Protection was issued. Subsequently, my wife initiated e-mail contact and later telephone contact. We made up and we were talking, sincerely, about what we both need to do to work things out. Unfortunately, we both have a bad temper and we are not skilled at arguing. We talked about going to counseling and anger management, and were both looking forward to working things out. However, a week before the family court date, my father-in-law, who used to work for the in Jeanine Pirro’s office as an investigator, called a friend of his at the PD to find out when the exact court date was. Through the course of the discussion, my father-in-law mentioned that we were talking and working things out. This “friend” interrupted and said it was not allowed. My wife started getting numerous phone calls at work, from her so-called “advocate”, to the DA, to the police. She was harassed and told she had to come in. She was ultimately tricked into signing a complaint that I had spoken with her on the phone and e-mailed her. I was arrested, despite her repeated objections. The police made it appear as though she had done this one her own. Coincidentally, we had had a little argument the night before, so it appeared to me like she could be being vindictive. I spent the entire weekend in jail, for talking and e-mailing my wife. My wife repeatedly told them she has never felt threatened. My wife wants this to end as soon as possible. She has repeatedly told people she wants to Order of Protection dropped, but she is treated like dirt because of this request. She is very, very upset by this, and you can imagine how I feel. They tell her I´m a psycho. I have no past record of any other violent acts. I did not enjoy spending the weekend with drug addicts, and other people proud of their violent crimes. My wife is getting treated very rudely by the DA and the officers. My father-in-law is trying to talk to people he knows there. My wife went to meet with another case worker yesterday, hoping the case-worker would listen to her, but instead returned to work shaken and upset, because all this person did was make her feel like a piece of garbage for even thinking of working things out. It is obvious that the Pace Women’s Justice Center here, which is acting as my wife´s "advocate", is like a cult of men-haters. These so-called advocates extended the Order of Protection for an additional month, without bothering to tell her. She did not, nor does she now, approve of this and is more upset now. No one has any interest in my wife and I working things out. All they do is make her feel bad and try to portray me as an evil beast. The fact that, after we´ve fought, I´m being nice to her, is considered a sign of abuse! Instead, they are purposely trying to keep us apart. What can my wife do to speed this up? Now I have to go to Domestic Violence Court because the TOP violation. I don’t understand how people can go so out of there way to interfere with our lives. It’s one thing if my wife feels threatened and intimidated-of course she should be protected-but this is just the opposite. Since when do we live in a police state? Can anyone out there help us? Thank you. Steve J.
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